“Get A Gun!” – Part 1 of 2

My second mother –my Dad remarried on Feb. 24, 1949, about 20 months after my first mother died — had gone upstairs to take a bath when I heard a knock on the front door of the farmhouse where we lived, outside Gadsden, AL.

Mother and I had spent the evening playing Canasta. Dad and Brother Dave had gone to a father-son event, the only time I remember my Dad ever doing something like that. He wasn’t that kind of father.

I answered the door, which wasn’t locked, didn’t even have a lock. A man was standing on the porch and he asked me, “Is your Daddy at home?”

“No sir,” I said.

He asked if he could come in and wait on him and I said, “Yes sir.”

I led him to the back living room and he sat down in my Dad’s chair.  I had never seen him before but I knew right then he must not know my Dad very well or he would not have sat in his chair. No one sat my Dad’s chair.

Who else is here?” he asked.

I said just my mother – she’s taking a bath upstairs — and me. I had forgotten that my brother, Pop, who was 16 or 17 years old and good at fighting, was also upstairs, asleep.

“Just you, your mother, and me,” he said.

And I said, “Yes sir.”

“Go out to my car and get my keys.”

I went outside to his car, parked in our driveway. It smelled like alcohol. I got his keys and went back into the house. He was still sitting in Dad’s chair.

A few minutes later my mother came down the stairs, wearing a green, ankle length robe, and when she saw the man, she stopped on the stairs and told him to leave.

He hesitated and she told him again, “Leave right now!” and he did.

Mother was still shaking when my Dad got home and she told him what had happened.

He was furious.

Vergie Winn Stith and John F. Stith Sr. This photo was made about six years after this incident.
Vergie Winn Stith and John F. Stith Sr. This photo was made about six years after this incident.

My father was a man who took offense easily and liked to fight. He had a blackjack and brass knuckles, which I saw once on the nightstand beside their bed. He had a pistol, too.

He began questioning mother and me.

What did this guy look like? How was he dressed? What kind of car was he driving? What color was it? What, exactly, did he say? Exactly.

And then Dad got on the phone and he started calling people he knew, friends, some of them. Other people too, questioning them. He knew men who lived on the edge of the law, bootleggers, gamblers.

And finally he found the man –I don’t know how– and he got him on the phone.

I heard Dad say, “Get a gun! I’m coming to see you. I’m going to shoot you, and I don’t want it to be murder.”

The man must have said, “You don’t know I look like,” or words to that effect because my Dad replied: “I got a boy who knows what you look like. He going to point at you and I’m going to shoot you.”

I was eight or nine years old.

Continued tomorrow.

 

Not Even A Drop

My grandfather, Paul Jones Stith, was 48 years old when he went to his bedroom, alone, and shot himself in the heart. He was born before the Civil War, on Jan. 25, 1858, and died shortly before noon on a Friday, April 13, 1906.

Paul was a “mining expert,”  according to The Birmingham Age-Herald, which published a front-page story the next day explaining why he killed himself.  The newspaper said he was despondent over his inability to obtain a right of way for mines owned by Stith Coal and Iron Co., of which he was president, to a railroad siding he had to have to ship coal.

Paul Jones Stith
Paul Jones Stith, 1858-1906

My father, who was 10 years old, revered his father — he never told me about the suicide.

Dad did tell me that Paul Jones Stith was an alcoholic, the fall-down-drunk-in-the-gutter kind.  On the nights he didn’t come home his wife, Annie Belle Stein Stith, would send men out looking for him, asking them to check the jail, the hospital – and the gutters of nearby streets.

Then, one fine day, Paul stopped drinking. Just like that, according to Dad. Paul made up his mind, told Annie Belle he had decided not to drink any more, and then he didn’t, according to my father.

Dad said after his father quit drinking he went on a U.S. government-sponsored expedition to Alaska to assess minerals there. Paul Jones Stith, a graduate of Virginia Military Institute, was an engineer.

Dad said one of the men on that expedition told him it was bitterly cold most of the time and, at night, the men would gather around a fire in one of their cabins and drink. Dad said he was told that his father would take shot glass of whiskey, hold it under his nose, and smell it. And then put it down without drinking a drop.

I heard my father tell that story several times. It was the only time I ever saw him tear up.

Coming Friday: Storm At Sea