Growing up Country

Pat, Too

Pat Stith
Pat Stith

After my mother died her only sibling, a brother, Dan Cameron, wanted to take me to raise, take me back to San Francisco where my mother’s family lived. I was the youngest of seven children and he said I was too young to take of myself.

That idea was DOA.

“All of the Stiths can take care of themselves,” my oldest brother, John, said. “And that includes Pat.”

I was five years old.

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I admire men [women, too] who do not cuss. I wished I didn’t. And I don’t, in church. Or around women and children.

My oldest sister, Marge, who came home from college to help hold things together when my mother died, was unable to break me of that bad habit, although it wasn’t for lack of trying.

Frustrated, she said she asked me, “Pat, when are you going stop cussing.” And she said I answered, “When I get to heaven, I guess.”

 

Don’t Look Down

We were playing, throwing rocks at each other.

I was on the second floor of storage building on our farm, near Gadsden, AL, and I peeked out at the wrong time. The rock Brother Dave threw hit me just above my right eyebrow. The scar is still visible.

I was bleeding, bad, and wailing too, of course.

Dave was not reassuring. He took a look and told me, “Don’t look down, Pat, or your eyeball will fall out.”

 

Like Nothing I Ever Saw.  Or Heard.

I was boy, walking home after picking cotton on a neighboring farm, when I heard it, a steady clanking noise, like rocks in a tumbler.

And then I saw it, a cloud of dust moving down the dirt and gravel road toward me. I got out of the way and let it by, a car running on four rims.

Coming Monday: Did You Say IF?

The Epitaphs

My grandfather, Paul Jones Stith, shot himself to death in 1906 and left his wife with six children and a seventh on the way.  My Grandmother, Annie Belle Stein, lived another 43 years and died in 1949.  They are buried side by side in Oakhill Cemetery in Birmingham, Alabama.

The Birmingham Age-Herald reported his suicide in a page 1 story, on April 14, 1906:

Paul Jones Stith
Paul Jones Stith

“Paul Jones Stith, age 48, well known in this section as a mining expert, died yesterday morning at 11:30 by his own hand at his home, 1617 Seventh Avenue, in Birmingham.  He shot himself through the heart with a 38-calibre revolver, in his bedroom.”

“Hugh Stith, the oldest son, hearing the report of the revolver, ran up to the bedroom on the second floor…and found his father dressed in his street clothes laying full length on the bed. The pistol with which Mr. Stith had fired the death-giving shot was lying on the bed near his right hand.”

Why did he kill himself?

The newspaper said that, according to “the family,” my grandfather was despondent because he had been unable to secure a right of way from Stith Coal and Iron Co. mines, in nearby Walker County, to a railroad.

grandfather's tomb (2)“Without this right of way, the operation of the mines of the Stith company would have been impracticable the family said, and all his capital and labor for the past year had been expended in developing the property,” the story said.

grandmothertomb (2)When the going got tough, my Grandfather shot himself to death.  His tombstone says, “HOW DESOLATE OUR HOME BEREFT OF THEE.”

My Grandmother stayed the course and raised their seven children alone.  Her tombstone says, “HER CHILDREN ARISE UP AND CALL HER BLESSED.”

Annie Belle Stein Stith
Annie Belle Stein Stith

NOTE1: Grandmother’s epitaph is taken from Proverbs 31:27-29: “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.  Her children arise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her: ‘Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.'”

NOTE2: Grandmother’s middle name, “Belle,”  was misspelled on her tombstone.  And the year of my Grandfather’s birth was wrong, too.  He was born in 1858.

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