“You’re Fired!”

Mary, who was black, worked for my Dad at his syrup plant in Charlotte, North Carolina, and, after my mother, Alice May Cameron, died in June 1947, he hired her to work at our farmhouse near Gadsden, Alabama, cooking and cleaning.

I don’t know how much he paid her, very little is my guess, in addition to room and board.  But she was able to save some money.

Marjorie Marie Stith
Marjorie May Stith

When I was a boy I went barefoot a lot in the summer.  That fall, I didn’t go to school, I was 5 years old, but when it got cold I needed shoes.  We didn’t have money for shoes so Mary, bless her, bought me a pair. And for that my oldest sister, Marge, fired her and sent her back to Charlotte.

Why?  Because our family didn’t take charity.

After I grew up and heard that story I suspected racism: Our family didn’t take charity from black people.

Sister Marge turned out to be the most liberal member of our family. [She voted for George McGovern, for Pete’s sake.]  So I thought, maybe, more than 50 years later, she might admit she had been a little hasty when she fired Mary. I asked her, and I found out: Nothing had changed.

I could practically see her blood pressure rising: Our family doesn’t take charity. And don’t offer us any, either.

Coming Friday: “No Dogs or Reporters Allowed”

Vintage Jack Hyland

Take a long, careful, look at this picture of Jack and Nell Hyland, my wife’s parents. You see what I see?

In the fall of 1963 Jack and Nell drove from Charlotte to Chapel Hill, N.C., for their first overnight visit with their newly-wed daughter and her husband.

Jack and Nell Hyland
Jack and Nell Hyland

We grilled on the patio at our apartment on Airport Road and Donna, my wife, took pictures — doesn’t she always?   This picture of that happy occasion puzzled me for years.  Why did Jack look like the picture of health while Nell looked like, well, white as a corpse.

Back then the color on colored photographs was quirky, which could explain why Nell’s face looked washed out.  But his face wasn’t washed out.  He looked just fine.

Jack Hyland: He love to laugh, and make other laugh.
Jack  loved to laugh, and make others laugh.

How could that be?

It was a long time before I noticed Jack’s hand.  It looked just like Nell’s face, washed out.

This is so Jack Hyland.  He loved to play jokes. He had been holding his breath, forcing blood to his face, making himself look healthy — and his wife look dead.

Coming Monday: “You’re Fired!”