Her Sad Wish

The words that caught my eye were on back of an envelope in a display case in the rotunda of the North Carolina state capitol in Raleigh.

Vietnam Memorial on the ground near North Carolina's state capitol.
The Vietnam Memorial on the North Carolina state capitol grounds.

The envelope was part of an exhibit of items left as tokens of love and respect at the base of the Vietnam Memorial on the grounds outside.

It seemed obvious that the note was written on the spur of the moment –the women had gone into her purse and found a pencil and a torn envelope that had contained a bill.

She scribbled a note on the envelope and left it at the memorial.

Her note said she missed him still.   She said she had married and had a daughter.  And then, about her daughter, she wrote: “How I wish she could have been ours.”

Every time I think about it, that hastily scribbled note it makes me sad for her.  And for her husband.

NOTE:  My father, a solder in the U.S. Army, landed in France 101 years ago today.  He told me that when he got there Kaiser Wilhelm II immediately threw up his hands and surrendered.  I know, that’s not true.  It’s not even a fact.  Wilhelm II abdicated on Nov. 9, 1918.

Coming Friday: The Lucky Find

Deal Me Out

Will Work For Food

Unsolicited advice is almost never welcomed, but I’m going to pass out some anyway: Don’t subsidize what you don’t want.

Beggar I think about that every time I ignore a beggar at a highway intersection, with his plea spelled out in block letters on a soiled piece of cardboard: “HUNGRY NEED HELP ‘GOD BLESS'” or “HOMELESS VETERAN.  WILL WORK FOR FOOD.”

I’ve never given money to one those guys. And why is it almost always men? Do women just have more pride?   Think about this for a second: If everyone was like me, there would be no beggars. Begging would be a waste of time.

OK wait, wait a minute.  Calm down.   I don’t give pocket change to beggars but we do contribute folding money to North Raleigh Ministries, where I used to volunteer one afternoon a week.  NRM provides needy individuals and families with food and other assistance.

I don’t give to the guys begging on street corners because I won’t subsidize what I don’t want. What they’re doing is humiliating, or ought to be, and I won’t contribute to that.

I Often Wondered

All of us have things that distract us from our work. Relationships are important and have to be tended.  Money problems, maybe, or health issues.  A parent, or spouse, or child who needs our care — our time. Or some other responsibility that can’t, or at least shouldn’t, be ignored.

But have you ever wondered how good you could be at your work if you had no distractions?  I used to think about that a lot:  How good could I be if I were as good as I could be?

Deal Me Out

Slot machine
Slot machine

I’ve never put a quarter in a slot machine or bought a lottery ticket. I don’t gamble, well, excluding fat bets I don’t gamble. And I don’t think of fat bets as wagers –I’ve never lost.  I look on them as my way of helping other people lose weight by punishing failure.

I don’t think gambling is immoral, I just think it’s foolish. I’ll never understand why people play games that are stacked against them, games that, if they play long enough, they’ll lose everything.

Coming Monday:  Who ARE You?