I Shoulda Kept Notes

I don’t have a lot of regrets but this is one: I wish I had kept notes on of all the – what should I call them? – unusual, things I’ve seen at weddings.

Here are some I remember:

  • A wedding in which there were no religious songs, no prayers or verses from the Bible — no mention of God. That’s unusual?  It is in this neck of the woods and, besides, the groom was the son of a Baptist preacher, and he was there.
  • A reception with a “Baptist” punch bowl that was full and a “Catholic” punch bowl that was empty. You know why, don’t you.
  • A couple that allowed photographers to hover around them at the altar — one even laid on the grass next to the minister, snapping away — while they took their vows. Why?  The bride was a photographer.  They were her friends.
  • The bride’s much beloved dog, Zoey, sitting next to her, barking, during the marriage ceremony.
  • Zoey, assisting at the marriage of Mandy Locke and Alex Granados
    Zoey, assisting at the marriage of Mandy Locke and Alex Granados

    A bride, standing outside the church in 90 degree heat, sweating along with scores of guests waiting to throw rice, while the groom combed his hair.

  • A rock-ribbed Baptist father-of-the-bride holding a bucket of holy water for the priest.
  • A wedding with a “Best Woman” instead of a “Best Man.”
  • A fall wedding where the groom announced the wedding would be delayed a few minutes. He and his bride had made it to the church on time but some guests had not — they were caught up in football traffic.
  • Police at the reception, investigating a theft at the wedding.
  • A popcorn machine next to the reception line so guests could snack while they waited to greet the wedding couple.
  • Two grown men, a brother and a cousin of the bride, serving as flower girls.  Did a good job, too.
  • Bouquets of honey suckle in mason jars sitting beneath the pews to make the church smell good.
  • Baptist weddings that were much shorter than the last two minutes of down-to-the-wire University of North Carolina basketball game.
  • Chelsea and Jim Waddelow
    Chelsea and Jim Waddelow

    A bride who wore a patch over one eye, like a pirate. She had injured it a few days before the wedding.

  • A groom, a former Marine aviator with more than 200 combat missions in Viet Nam, with his hair in a pony tail, adorned with baby’s breath.
  • A bride and groom who washed each other’s feet during the ceremony.
  • Bridesmaids wearing masks. Oh, yes, remember the pandemic of 2020?
  • And, top this: A bride and groom who married themselves.  They exchanged vows; signed the marriage certificate; had it witnessed, and then pronounced themselves man and wife.

Coming Monday: No Name Peak


You Did WHAT?

Theresa Saunders, one of my son Mark’s sisters-in-law, was an operating room nurse at Mission Hospital in Asheville, N.C.  One day when she was down here visiting we got to talking and I asked her how work was going. She told me she had just helped fillet a man’s face.

The man had cancer.

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Theresa Saunders

She said the surgeon cut down the middle of his face, peeled half of it off and laid it over on his ear.  Then he took out some teeth and part of his jaw, wired him back together best he could, and sewed him up.

“How often do you do an operation like that,” I asked.

“Oh, about once a week,” she said. “There are a lot of tobacco chewers in the mountains.”

Postscript: I had chewed tobacco for years, “Red Man,” mostly.  Or “Apple.” I quit that day.

Coming Monday: Quincy The Terrible – Part 1