The Best Answer

One of my nieces, Pam Stith, told me this story.  Here goes:

I was in second grade when my Daddy [John F. Stith Jr.] decided to go back to college, to the University of Alabama, to finish his degree. We moved to Tuscaloosa into a small apartment in student housing. My little brother, Paul, was about two and was put to bed earlier than his big brother and sister. Some nights he had trouble going to sleep. He would call out from the back bedroom, “Daddy, I can’t go to sleep.”

Daddy would say, “Just close your eyes.”

In a minute Paul would say, “I can’t, I can’t close my eyes.”

John F. Stith Jr.
John F. Stith Jr.

Daddy would get up from his big red leather chair and walk back to the bedroom. He would lean over the side of the bed and tuck the blankets. Paul would close his eyes and Daddy would reach down and very gently touch Paul’s eyelids. Then Daddy would whisper.

“Your mama loves you. Your daddy loves you. Your brother loves you.  Your sister loves you. Your Grandmama loves you.”

And the listing would continue. If Daddy skipped anybody, Paul would ask, “What about Aunt Jane?”

“Your Aunt Jane loves you,” Daddy would say.  “Your Uncle John loves you.  Your cousin Alice loves you.”

When Daddy finished all the family, he would move on to the neighbors.  And every night he would finish with, “But Jesus loves you most of all.”

The university had converted an old hospital into student housing and the layout of the rooms was odd. The shower was made of tin and faced a back wall of the bathroom. One day when Daddy was taking a shower, he heard the bathroom door open and close. He knew someone had come in, but no one said anything, so he called out, “Who’s there?” No response. Louder, he said, “Who’s there?” No response. A third time he called out – this time sternly, “Who’s there?”

Paul Harrison Stith
Paul Harrison Stith

Paul was standing in the bathroom and had not uttered a sound. He thought he was in trouble, but he didn’t know why. He knew he needed an answer for his Daddy and a good one. Then he thought of it!

“It’s the boy that Jesus loves!”

Postscript: Paul Harrison Stith, the boy that Jesus loves, is now the pastor of Grace Heritage Church, a Baptist church in Auburn, Alabama.

Coming Monday: Time To Fess Up

 

 

 

 

Lunch Is On Me

During the late 1960’s, when I worked for The Charlotte News, I thought seriously about leaving the craft for a higher paying job. Comparatively speaking I was well paid, but it just wasn’t enough. My wife, Donna, and I had three children, we were buying a new house and car and I had to work three nights a week and all day Saturday at a second job to make ends meet.

Once I actually accepted a job covering news for WAYS radio, and then backed out when The News made me a good counter offer.

I interviewed for a job as sports information director at Davidson College. I had worked three years in UNC’s sports information office when I was a student there and I thought I was well qualified. But I didn’t like them very much and, apparently, they didn’t didn’t like me either. Davidson did not offer me the job.

And once I went to lunch with a flack for Duke Power Co. who was trying to recruit me to work in “public relations” at Duke.  I finally came to my senses and told him, “No, thank you.”

But lunch was interesting.

The Duke fellow took me to a Chinese place. He was a former sports writer for The Charlotte Observer so conversation was easy, we had a lot in common.

chinese foodThe food was excellent and so was the service. At one point, the owner came by to say hello to the Duke Power man. It was pretty obvious that he was a regular and that the two men were friends.

When it came time to pay the bill the owner would not allow my host to pay.  He held his hands up, palms out, as if he was going to push him away. No, no, he said.

When we got in the Duke Power man’s car and he headed back to my newspaper, to take me back to work, I asked why, why had the owner refused payment?

This is what the Duke guy told me:

The restaurant owner liked to gamble and my host, who has been a sports writer remember, was able to give him a leg up, a big advantage.

[You do know, of course, that this happened long before the Internet and the age of instantaneous information.]

The restaurant owner would call The Charlotte Observer’s sports department and ask my host for the scores of baseball games that had just started, looking for a game that wasn’t on the radio where one of the teams had taken a big lead in the first inning. Inning by inning results of all the games came in on the sports department’s teletype machine so that information was readily available to sports writers.

When the restaurant owner found a game where the score was already lopsided he would place a bet on the team with the big lead.

Several years had passed but restaurant guy still remembered those money making favors fondly and told the former sports writer, in effect, “Lunch is on me.”

Coming Friday: The Best Answer