You’re Not Bo!

My sons, Bo and Mark, played football for nine years, from the fourth grade through their senior year at East Wake High School and, early on, I instructed them:  Do not fake an injury.  Do not lay on the ground acting like you’re hurt unless you are.  If you don’t get up, you better be hurt.

It wasn't #66.
It wasn’t #66.

And here we were, with less than a minute to go in the last game of Bo’s senior year, a playoff game we were about to lose, when he went down.  And stayed down.

I’ll be damn! I thought. One more play and his football career would have been over.  One more lousy play.

Then I did something I had never done and never dreamed I would do.  I stood up and walked down out of the stands onto the track beside the field. I walked down the track a little ways and then out onto the field.  I stopped beside the boy laying on the ground and looked down.

He was not wearing number 66, Bo’s number — it was the other offensive guard. Bo was standing nearby with his teammates, looking perplexed.

I was not embarrassed. I was relieved.  That was not my son laying on the field in pain. One more play and Bo would walk away from football dinged up some but with no injury he couldn’t live with.

Relieved and grateful.

Coming Friday: You Need To Check My Contract

 

Parenting Advice: Pay Attention

Mark H. Stith: "...pay attention."
Mark H. Stith: “…pay attention.”

The best parenting advice I’ve ever heard came from my youngest, Mark, after he grew up and had children of his own.  He and his wife have five.

“You have to pay attention,” he told me.

If you’re paying attention, and a child gets a foot or two off the path you’ve chosen for him or her, you can say, “Move to your right a little.” And they do and that’s that. No big deal.

But if you’re not paying attention, Mark said, before you know it they are way off the path, down there in the creek somewhere or tangled up in a bunch of briers. You have to go get them. There’s a lot shouting. You’re upset, they’re upset.

All that could be avoided if you would just pay attention.

Coming Monday: The Lesson